Is it the Method?

John Gutekunst | January 2018

10-13 Minute Read

Is it really the methods used and the training of the mental health practitioner that matters the most, or is it something else?

Is it the Method?

John Gutekunst | January 2018

10-13 Minute Read

Is it really the methods used and the training of the mental health practitioner that matters the most, or is it something else?

Is It the Method

Is it the Method?

John Gutekunst | January 2018

10-13 Minute Read

Is it really the methods used and the training of the mental health practitioner that matters the most, or is it something else?

“People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.” 

Theodore Roosevelt

In this line of business, many people ask about my credentials and the details about the methods I’ve been trained in.

 

This often turns into a fun conversation.

 

The response I typically share about my credentials and training has caused quite a few people to have deeper realizations about themselves. It turns out my standard response is not so standard.

 

The epiphanies this topic and conversation often create has happened enough that I decided to write an article to share the joy with the entire planet on the world wide web.

 

Maybe you’ll also have some epiphanies and realizations of your own after reading this too.

 

Enjoy.

Is it the Method?

What training and credentials do I have? And what are they in?

This is a question I get quite often. Here is my standard response:

 

I have nearly 1,000 hours in formal certificates from my training, plus thousands of hours more (if not tens of thousands) in research, analysis, writing, reading, watching, listening, and contemplation about Life and human behavior / psychology. As a result, I am proficient in quite a few methodologies, techniques, strategies, philosophies, and approaches that help others completely overcome their most difficult challenges and also achieve their most passionate goals.

 

The monetary and time investment I have made into my training and my personal development business could easily have paid for a Masters Degree and a PhD. I am happy to provide a detailed list of my formal certifications if you would like.

 

Please consider this though:

 

It definitely is true that some things are good.

Some things are better than good.

And some things are “the best”.

 

This means that some mindsets, belief systems, and philosophies are better than the others.

This also means that their related recommendations, methods, and techniques are better too.

 

I appreciate and know very, very intimately the desire to want to know which philosophies and methods are “the best”.

Being a person that has lofty standards and expectations in everything I commit to, I’ve been pretty far down this path myself and then some, to say the least.

“The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” 

Vince Lombardi

As a result of this journey, I’ve seen some pretty remarkable results from certain techniques. This includes life-long challenges being eliminated in a matter of minutes, and stories and accounts of physical diseases being healed by using techniques that alter certain operations in their mind.

 

To give you an idea of what’s out there, consider watching this too:

Go Far Enough…

Go far enough down this path and you likely will see many people promoting their method as “the best”… or come across content trying to describe the pros and cons of each method or therapeutic approach… or come across other content that describes which methods or therapy styles are most effective for each specific type of challenge.

 

Ultimately, as enticing as the desire to search for “the best” method may be, the path that involves searching for “the best” method can turn out to be a dangerous thing to focus on as it is loaded with traps. It can be very misleading too.

 

Here is why:

 

Focusing on the method or the technique can distract you from the things that matter the most to you and have the biggest impact on your overall quality of life.

 

Yes, certain techniques can do some pretty cool things.

Yes, certain therapy styles and philosophies are more effective than others.

Yes, certain devices can provide promising results for specific problems.

And, yes, certain practitioners and professionals are more effective than others too.

 

Be Aware of This

Here is the main dynamic to be aware of though:

Regardless of the method, technique, approach, medicine, drug, substance, device, gadget, therapist, practitioner, guru, or healer (etc.) that ends up proving to be most effective; the client is still involved.

 

In other words, no matter what ends up working for a client, the fact still remains that the client was involved in the process.

 

This means that the client decided they want to conquer the challenge and/or achieve the goal...

and that the client had the desire and actually took action to overcome a difficulty and/or pursue their dreams...

and that the client was open, flexible, vulnerable, and humble enough to ask for guidance...

and that the client put in the effort, energy, and will power to make this happen...

AND that the client believed and had faith in herself or himself too.

 

The list could go on and on and on.

 

The fact is that it always will be true that everything that is done in a coach-client or therapist-client or healer-client or guru-client relationship (etc.) involves the client.

THAT is the primary focus

And THAT is the most important part of any treatment plan, approach, method, and or practitioner-client relationship.

 

The primary focus is on the client and the results she/he gets.

 

In other words, it is all about the client.

 

That is worth repeating again…

EVERYTHING is about the client.

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This means that EVERYTHING that is emphasized as being important should consider the client first, foremost, and always.

 

 

We All Want This

And we all want the best, right?

 

This means we all want the best results and solutions too, right?

 

Well, consider this:

What is more important and "the best things" for a client to value about themselves?

 

Should they value their ability to use their decision-making skills and freedom to decide

OR

Should they value their experience with a method, medicine, mystic, or master healer?

 

 

Should they value their ability to actually allow themselves to desire something and want something for themselves AND actually took action on that something too…

OR

Should they value their experience with a technique, device, drug, or master teacher?

 

 

Should the client value the fact that they were open, flexible, vulnerable, AND humble

OR

Should they value their experience with a strategy, substance, sage, or guru?

 

 

Should they value their effort, energy, and will power….

OR

Should they value their experience with a specific therapeutic style, treatment regimen, topical remedy, or therapist more than that?

 

And one of the most important things of all…

 

Should they value anything more than their belief and faith in themselves?

 

"As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live."

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Think About It

Think about it though.

It was said earlier that:

Focusing on the method or the technique can distract you from the things that matter the most to you and have the biggest impact on your overall quality of life.

 

Look at these lists again and ask yourself two questions:

1. What matters the most to you?

2. What do you think has the biggest impact on your overall quality of life?

 

Your decision-making skills.

Your freedom to decide.

Your ability to allow yourself to desire and want things.

Your ability to “walk the walk”, and take action and go after the things you want.

Your ability and appreciation for being open, flexible, vulnerable, AND humble.

Your effort, energy, and will power.

Your belief and faith in yourself.

 

OR

 

A method, philosophy, technique, strategy, style, or approach.

A medicine, drug, prescription, herb, supplement, type of food, or substance.

A device, machine, gadget, or instrument.

A therapist, coach, psychiatrist, practitioner, teacher, sage, guru, mystic, or healer.

 

...?

While We're At It

While we're at it, why not think about this too:

 

If a client has worked on her/his decision-making skills and their freedom to decide...

and wholeheartedly and relentlessly desires and want a remedy to their challenge...

and the client consistently takes big actions to go after the things she/he wants...

and fully appreciates and values being open, flexible, vulnerable, AND humble; AND has gotten pretty good at being those things...

and puts every single ounce of effort, energy, and will power into conquering their challenge...

AND has deep rooted belief and faith in herself/himself...

 

 

What are the odds that the method(s), machine(s), and/or material(s) used by the mystic, master healer, or person with the master degree are going to work?

 

 

What matters more?

 

Is it the method, or is it something else...?

 

 

The reality is that:

 

When a client has done the work and has built the right skills and the right mindset; anything and everything a coach, mental healthcare practitioner, healer, guru, or guide does or recommends AND any substance, machine, or device the client starts using (or stops using) becomes a WHOLE lot easier and a TON more effective.

Dream Client

In fact, that pretty much is everyone's dream client- IE: a client that has mastered

  • their decision making skills,
  • their freedom to decide,
  • takes big actions and walks the walk;
  • and is open, flexible, vulnerable, and humble;
  • and puts 110% effort, energy, and will power into the process;
  • and has deep rooted belief and faith in herself/himself...

 

Heck, at that point you could tell someone to get a stuffed penguin and that probably would work in getting them what they want.

And when someone masters all of these things, do they even need a coach, practitioner, healer, guru, substance, device, or method at all?

Is it the method that matters the most, or is it something else?

There's More. Dig Deeper.

...There is more to this article AND to you... keep going!

"Don’t gain the world and lose your soul; wisdom is better than silver or gold."

Bob Marley

Dig Deep. Understand Why.

It’s one thing to know what you prefer. It’s a whole other thing to have the deeper wisdom and understanding as to why this is.

 

To dig deeper, consider this:

 

What is the key difference between these two categories of things?

 

Maybe some of you have caught it, and maybe some of you haven’t.

 

Here’s a hint:

"Those who look outside dream.

Those who look inside awaken."

Carl Jung

We All Know This

We all know that it is not as fulfilling to have a mindset and lifestyle that is solely built upon external things for fulfillment instead of internal things.

 

Think about the person that has all of the possessions in the world and the lifestyle that many would envy, but is (or was) not fulfilled.

 

It’s very likely that all of us can think of at least a few musicians, actors, comedians, business tycoons, athletes, celebrities, and other well-off people that “had it all, but never really had a thing”.

 

On the outside they looked great, but on the inside, it was a different story.

 

So… look at these again…

 

Your decision-making skills.

Your freedom to decide.

Your ability to allow yourself to desire and want things.

Your ability to “walk the walk”, and take action and go after the things you want.

Your ability and appreciation for being open, flexible, vulnerable, AND humble.

Your effort, energy, and will power.

Your belief and faith in yourself.

 

…and then ask yourself:

 

Why do these things matter the most?

And why do they have the biggest impact on the quality of our lives?

 

Because it’s what’s on the inside that counts.

All of these things are ALWAYS inside of you.

"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Is it the method that matters the most, or is it something else?

 

At This Point

At this point, hopefully you can tell that this conversation (and article) is not about my credentials and training.

 

This conversation really is about YOU.

 

More specific than that, this conversation is really about what YOU think-

 

What is more important for you to focus on- the things that are on the outside or the things that are on the inside?

 

What do you think has a greater impact on your quality of life?

 

Is it the internal or is it the external?

 

Internal > External

End of the Day…

At the end of the day when you focus too much on the best methods, substances, devices, and practitioners; you focus too much on the things that are outside of you.

 

On the other hand, when you focus on these things, you are focused on things that are ALWAYS inside of you:

 

Your decision-making skills.

Your freedom to decide.

Your ability to allow yourself to desire and want things.

Your ability to “walk the walk”, and take action and go after the things you want.

Your ability and appreciation for being open, flexible, vulnerable, AND humble.

Your effort, energy, and will power.

Your belief and faith in yourself.

Those who look outside dream.

Those who look inside awaken.

EVERYTHING is about the client looking inside and wholeheartedly valuing what they have inside themselves.

The Gute Life

There's More. Dig Deeper.

...For one final time, there is more to this article AND to you... keep going!

Fun conversation, right?

 

But we haven’t even gotten to the best part yet.

 

Yep:

There's More

 

 

And no, this is NOT a sales pitch...

 

There just are some more details to be aware of on this topic that must be brought to you attention. These details can make all the difference.

 

Yes, there’s more!

As was said shared near the beginning of this article- as enticing as the desire to search for “the best” method, philosophy, technique, approach, medicine, drug, substance, device, gadget, therapist, practitioner, guru, or healer (etc.) may be…

 

The path that involves searching for “the best” of these things can turn out to be a dangerous thing as that path is loaded with traps. It also can be very misleading too.

 

As true as it is that focusing on methods, philosophies, credentials, substances, techniques, etc. can be a trap- it still remains true that:

 

Some things are good.

Some things are better than good.

And some things are the best.

 

This also is true too:

"It's the little details that are vital.

Little things make big things happen."

John Wooden

Did You Notice?

Did you notice how it was said that “The path that involves searching for “the best” of these things can turn out to be a dangerous thing as that path is loaded with traps. It also can be very misleading too.”

 

Those two little words- “can be” are quite an important item in that statement, aren’t they?

 

And sometimes the things that are not said are just as important as the things that are said.

 

Nowhere does it say:

“STOP thinking about this at all costs!”

“Strictly prohibited!”

“Pain is eminent and unavoidable if you go this way!”

Etc.

 

It basically says “Traps exist ahead. You also may get mislead”.

This also basically says, “Danger ahead. Be careful”.

 

No risk, no reward, right!?

 

A little danger every now and then provides variety and a spice to life too, doesn’t it?

And just because traps exist on a path doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go down that path at all.

 

If you’re resourceful and dedicated enough, you can find a way to avoid the traps.

 

This is especially true if you can predict the traps and know what they are ahead of time…

 

…And this article just outlined the main traps to be aware of when it comes to searching for the best method, philosophy, technique, etc.

 

So, Guess What?

So, guess what- there IS a method, philosophy, set of recommendations, and beliefs that I personally find to be better than all of the rest.

 

In fact, I’ll be bold and say that every single mental health practitioner should absolutely incorporate this philosophy into the core of their practice and have it as the foundation to ANY treatment strategy.

 

I’ll be even more bold and say the entire planet and society as a whole would be a completely different place if every single human being incorporated this philosophy into the core and foundation of who they fundamentally are as a person.

 

In other words, what I’m really saying is that after my nearly 1,000 hours of formal training…

… tens of thousands of dollars of investment…tens of thousands of hours of research, contemplation, meditation, studying, pondering, and analysis; and quite a large chunk of change too…

…And after exerting tons of physical, mental, and emotional energy… and after plenty of blood, plenty of sweat, and PLENTY of tears…

 

This is THE philosophy that I have found to be “the best” approach for ALL clients.

 

This includes those that have a big dream that they’re pursuing and want to make come true.

 

And it definitely includes those that want to conquer a personal challenge once and for all- no matter how difficult that personal challenge is.

 

THE Philosophy

This philosophy is called “THE Core Philosophy”.

 

It serves the core and foundation to eliminating any challenge from your life.

 

The core of this philosophy also would go a long way in eliminating unnecessary conflict in the mental health industry and society as a whole too.

 

Notice One Last Thing

When you learn this philosophy, you’ll notice one incredibly important and powerful item that was missing on the “List of things on the inside that count” that was essentially provided in this article.

 

And THAT is the best part.

 

IE: That one last thing that is missing from the lists provided herein is THE Thing that makes all the difference in everyone’s life.

 

THAT Thing” is provided in the next article.

 

Without this one last thing, absolutely nothing in your life will ever really matter.

 

And when you make THAT Thing the core and foundation of who you fundamentally are as a person… who knows where you can go.

 

One Last Hint

You can trust me when I say THAT Thing can completely change your life.

 

I know this not only from personal experience, but also because I’ve done the research, been formally trained, and put in the time.

 

My certifications that provide some of the proof that this is true are available upon request : )

 

Let's share (and repeat) one final hint for you though:

“People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.” 

Theodore Roosevelt

Set The Certifications Aside

Let’s put certifications and training aside.

 

It’s probably better to let THE Core Philosophy speak for itself first. After you learn this philosophy and discover “THAT Thing” for yourself, you can feel free to decide if you really even need to know what my certifications are at all.

The Gute Life

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If you enjoyed this article, The Gute Life would really appreciate your help. The Best way to help support the Love that we are sharing with the world is to like The Gute Life's facebook page.  Especially for a growing organization, every like and every share goes a long way. Thank you in advance for your support and your Love.

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John Gutekunst is an educator, coach, writer, and speaker. He also is a CFA Charterholder, a certified yoga instructor, a depression expert, an entrepreneur, and a "retired" corporate banker too. He is dedicated to guiding others enjoy their lives as much as humanly possible, guiding others through the process of completely eliminating their most difficult personal challenges from their life, AND to assisting others with achieving their most passionate goals and dreams. He also helps others find a way to Love themselves No Matter What Happens in their life. To speak with him directly, please email him at john@thegutelife.com.
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Gute (Goo-tee)

John Gutekunst is an educator, coach, writer, and speaker. He also is a CFA Charterholder, a certified yoga instructor, a depression expert, an entrepreneur, and a "retired" corporate banker too. He is dedicated to guiding others enjoy their lives as much as humanly possible, guiding others through the process of completely eliminating their most difficult personal challenges from their life, AND to assisting others with achieving their most passionate goals and dreams. He also helps others find a way to Love themselves No Matter What Happens in their life. To speak with him directly, please email him at john@thegutelife.com.
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