THE Core Philosophy

John Gutekunst | January 2018

15-18 Minute Read

The core and foundation to eliminating any challenge from your life.

The core of this philosophy also would go a long way in eliminating unnecessary conflict in the mental health industry and society as a whole too.

THE Core Philosophy

John Gutekunst | January 2018

15-18 Minute Read

The core and foundation to eliminating any challenge from your life.

The core of this philosophy also would go a long way in eliminating unnecessary conflict in the mental health industry and society as a whole too.

The Core Force of Love

THE Core Philosophy

John Gutekunst | January 2018

15-18 Minute Read

The core and foundation to eliminating any challenge from your life.

The core of this philosophy also would go a long way in eliminating unnecessary conflict in the mental health industry and society as a whole too.

Philosophy Force of Love

Why start with the definition of philosophy?

That's simple.

 

Because when human beings begin think about things in a certain way, their lives change completely.

 

When people get an invigorating business idea, or a creative idea for art or music, or an idea for something they can do to make someone happier... or receive any form of inspirational thoughts or ideas…

…that is exactly what happens to them. They begin to think differently and their lives change.

 

And when people have "epiphanies" or "Aha! moments" or "breakthroughs" or "transformations" and realize their lives will never be the same from that point forward because of that new learning… 

…that is exactly what happens too. They begin to think differently and their lives change completely.

 

This also effectively means that they create a new "system of thought", and this “new philosophy” changes their lives. 

 

That is why one of the definitions for philosophy that is highlighted above- a philosophy involves a system of thought.

 

Think Different 7 Agreements

IG: @youniteverses

 

THE Core Philosophy

As the summary of this article indicates, "THE Core Philosophy" presented herein will outline the core and foundation to eliminating any challenge from your life. THE Core Philosophy also can go a long way in eliminating unnecessary conflict in the mental health industry and society as a whole too.

 

Said differently- this article will outline "an attitude of rationality, patience, composure, and calm in the presence of troubles or annoyances".

These troubles and annoyances can exist in your life, the mental health industry, and/or society as a whole.

 

THE Core Philosophy technically includes Seven Agreements (and a few other items). We can save the other agreements (and the other items) for another time. That is because agreements six and seven that are the most important. 

 

In other words, agreements six and seven are "The Core” of “THE Core Philosophy".

 

What is shared below starts with the Sixth Agreement. All of this is an excerpt from the full article on The Seven Agreements. Given how relevant the topic of “permanence” is in this conversation, if you enjoy this article below, it is worth reading the full Seven Agreements article later.

 

Either way, this article below shares the most essential “principles and concepts” within THE Core Philosophy.

 

When you wholeheartedly and relentlessly adopt this philosophy in the core and foundation of who you fundamentally are as a person… who knows where you can go.

 

Enjoy.

The Sixth Agreement

Remember the first and second agreements:

  1. We all can agree that we all want honesty and objectivity.
  2. We all can agree that we all want to use “the best”, and the most powerful tools and methods available to conquer our challenges and make our dreams come true.

 

Also remember how a theme to this article is discussing the mental health industry, and the different types of approaches and terms used within it?

 

IE: Remember that whole discussion about alternative and complimentary healthcare?

Or traditional and conventional?

Or holistic and integrative?

 

... And the debate between:  “Disorder, ailment, malady, pathology, disease, etc.” vs. “Challenge, obstacle, problem, difficulty, struggle, etc.”... ?

 

Let’s Acknowledge this:

Let’s also acknowledge this fact:

 

Situations that involve anxiety disorders, panic attacks, depression, low self-esteem, suicidal behaviors, addiction, eating disorders, deep losses, regrettable decisions, and the like can be very difficult and challenging for any human being to experience.

 

On a similar (and heavy) topic; abuses, traumas, tragedies, crises, catastrophes are some of the most difficult things that any human being can experience too.

 

There is nothing like having someone else there by your side to navigate the most difficult and challenging times that Life can create. And THAT is one of the primary roles and functions us professionals in the mental health industry provide to society as a whole- to be there when times are tough (and to guide others out of the “difficult times” as fast as possible while using methods that ensure they’ll never go back too).

 

If you’re really, REALLY struggling to enjoy life OR have gone through some really, REALLY difficult experiences- you can turn to a mental health professional for help.

 

Not everyone is built to routinely be exposed to challenges of this nature. Many, MANY professionals in this industry are angels and gifts to everyone they have the opportunity to guide and serve.

“It’s not the load that breaks you down. It’s the way you carry it.” 

Lena Horne

“Ask for help not because you’re weak, but because you want to remain strong.” 

Les Brown

Helping People Seven Agreements

Last Thing Ever Desired

As special as the professionals in this industry can be, we still are human. This means we still can make mistakes, unintentionally mislead others, and can debate and create conflict with our peers.

 

The absolute last thing anyone ever wants in times of deep distress and deep despair is any form of drama, conflict, and needless suffering.

 

This means that in the most difficult times in life, one of the things that we human beings need the most is agreement.

 

Agreement is the exact opposite of conflict, and drama and needless suffering are very rare when all parties involved are in harmony and wholeheartedly agree.

 

So maybe all of the mental health professionals (and everyone else for that matter) can agree on this:

 

Whether you prefer alternative, conventional, and/or integrative approaches; or the terms disorder, disease, challenge, and/or struggle… Hopefully one thing we ALL can agree on is that Love is absolutely necessary to overcome any type of personal challenge.

 

In fact, for situations as difficult and as heavy as anxiety disorders, panic attacks, depression, suicidal behaviors, addiction, eating disorders, deep losses, regrettable decisions, abuses, traumas, tragedies, crises, catastrophes and the like...

 

Can you imagine attempting to get through any of these challenges without the power and the force of Love!?

Isn’t that exactly what people going through these difficult experiences need the most- as much Love as the possibly can get!?

 

And even more specific than that, what people need the most in times of distress is care, fondness, sympathy, compassion, sensitivity, warmth, tenderness, affection, and connection with themselves.

 

Said differently:

In times of distress, what people need the most is as much Love for themselves as they possibly can get!

Force of Love

Says Who…

Yes, some things may be permanent.

Yes, some things may not be permanent.

 

And remember this:

Who is anyone to say what can’t be accomplished when we have the powers of desire, faith, the human mind, and the human spirit on our side!?

Permanent or temporary, who is anyone to limit what we can accomplish when we have the powers of faith, desire, the human mind, and the human spirit by our side?

 

Says who that someone who has experienced an incredibly difficult and challenging time in their life automatically means that they can NOT find a way to love themselves?

 

Says who that someone who is experiencing depression, low self-esteem, and/or suicidal behaviors automatically means they can’t find a way to love themselves despite these struggles?

 

Says who that those who are experiencing addictions, anxiety attacks, eating disorders, bipolar, and the like automatically means they are not capable of loving themselves despite these difficulties?

 

Says who that those who have experienced abuses, traumas, tragedies, crises, and/or catastrophes automatically means they can NOT rely on Love, and the incredibly healing and transformative force that it can be?

 

Isn’t that exactly what people experiencing these difficult challenges need the most- as much Love as the possibly can get!?

 

Who or what has ever, is ever, can ever, or will ever permanently stop anyone from Loving themselves!?

 

No matter what happens in your life, no-thing and no-one and no-force can ever stop you from finding a way to Love yourself. This is especially true if you have the powers of faith, desire, the human mind, and the human spirit by your side.

 

Can you imagine attempting to take on any challenge without these things?

Can you imagine attempting to take on any challenge without the power and the force of Love!?

Are We Getting Soft!?

And, yes, Love is a force.

And, yes, it IS incredibly powerful, and it can be incredibly fierce and tenacious too.

 

Come across a mother in the wild and you’ll definitely see tenacity, and just how fierce Love can be.

Power of Love in the Wild- Seven Agreements

 

Some of you are saying, “Try to hurt *my* kid and I’ll show you exactly how fierce and tenacious Love can be”…

 

...or try to hurt my spouse, my parents, my car, my friends, my family… or try to hurt whatever you personally care about the most and “love” deeply and passionately, and the entire force of Love WILL be unleashed.

 

So, for those of you that are wondering if we’re getting too soft, it actually is exactly the opposite.

 

Love is an incredibly powerful force.

Love can be incredibly fierce and tenacious too.

 

... and while we're at it:

Real Men Love

This is obviously true for women too.

 

There seems to be a pretty big disconnect in society as to what real masculinity is built upon, so that needs to be said- especially during a conversation about whether or not we're getting soft.

 

Put The Topic Of Gender Aside

Anyhow, let's put the topic of gender aside and finish this section...

 

...Imagine if you unleashed the fierceness and tenacity of Love onto your personal challenges?

 

In other words, imagine if you took on your depression, anxiety, addiction, etc. with the same intensity that a mother protecting her young would exhibit.

 

How long would these challenges last if this intensity and this mindset were applied?

Seven Agreements I Love Me

Slow Down

Let’s slow down again and ensure everyone appreciates the significance of what was just shared above.

 

When difficult times arise in your life, absolutely NOTHING exists that can prevent you from finding Love again in your life.

 

This means that if you have the desire and faith, and put your mind and your spirit into it, you CAN find a way to love yourself no matter how messed up or challenging your life may be (... please see agreements 1-5 for a reminder why).

 

This also means that if you are struggling with depression, low self-esteem, and/or suicidal behaviors…

Yes, YOU can find a way to Love for yourself despite these challenges!

 

Or if you’re struggling with addictions, anxiety, eating disorders, bipolar, and/or anything along these lines…

Yes, YOU can find a way to Love for yourself despite these challenges!

 

Or if you’re struggling with an abuse, trauma, tragedy, crisis and/or catastrophe; you can bet everything you’ve got that YOU definitely can find a way to Love yourself despite these challenges too.

Love Yourself Force of Love Seven Agreements

“You yourself, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." 

Buddha

Real Men Love Themselves

 

YES! This is true for women too : )

More Details On Love (and the 6th Agreement)

"If it works in the most extreme and most challenging scenarios, imagine how effective it will be in the less extreme and less challenging scenarios too."

The Gute Life

Can You Imagine?

Once again... Yes, some things may be permanent. And, yes, some things may not be permanent too.

 

Regardless of the situation and any degree of permanence involved- when it comes to difficult times in Life, we definitely want to use the absolute best, and the most powerful tools and resources we have at our disposal.

 

This is especially true in the extreme scenarios and the most difficult challenges we human beings can face.

 

Can you imagine attempting to take on depression, low self-esteem, and/or suicidal behaviors without the power and force of Love?

Can you imagine attempting to take on addictions, anxiety attacks, eating disorders, bipolar, and the like without the power and force of Love?

Can you imagine attempting to take on abuses, traumas, tragedies, crises, or catastrophes without the power and force of Love?

 

Isn’t that exactly what people going through these difficult experiences need the most- as much Love as the possibly can get!?

 

…and what if you make Love the primary tool and force that you use as a part of your strategy to get through these challenges?

 

Who is to say what Love can or cannot do for you in your life!?

Who is anyone to say what can’t be accomplished when we have the powers of desire, faith, the human mind, the human spirit, and (most important of all) the force of Love on our side!?

Imagine what YOU can achieve with the powers of desire, faith, the human mind, the human spirit, and (most important of all) the force of Love by your side.

The Reality:

The reality is that Loving yourself is a skill, and being a Loving person is a skill too. It takes talent and ability to be able to find ways to care about and value yourself, care for yourself, and take care of yourself too. This is especially true during the difficult times in life.

 

Depression, addiction, anxiety, eating disorders and the like are not the easiest things to experience. Needless to say, it is especially true that the “dark times” and "most challenging times" in life are often the times that are most difficult for many of us to find a way to value ourselves, connect with ourselves, and take care of ourselves too.

 

In fact, it is during the difficult challenges and "down times" in life that many of us human beings turn away from Love and focus on something else (IE: medication, herbs, drugs, alcohol, sex, food, sleep, bingeing, and all of those other fun coping mechanisms).

 

That is kind of ironic, isn't it?

IE: The fact that during times of distress, the very thing that we need the most is the very thing many of us rely on the least...?

 

A (strong) case can be made that a lack of Love is present in (and very likely the exact cause of) any and all of the difficult times in our life (especially the very difficult ones). When you find Love again, you very likely eliminate a lot of pain from that experience (and often times eliminate the specific cause of the problem too).

 

That is why it is incredibly important to become skilled at Loving yourself no matter what. You can lose love from someone else or lose the thing you love, but you will be with yourself for the rest of your life.

 

Learn to Love yourself first, foremost, and always, and you build a solid foundation to rely upon for the rest of  your life- no matter what happens to you in your life.

 

So, SO Many Reasons Why

At the end of the day, there are so, SO many reasons as to why many of us turn away from Love when it is most needed. There also are so, SO many reasons why many of us have not been trained in this "skill" of Loving ourselves no matter what. The image below does a great job of depicting some of the reasons as to why this is for some of us:

@agentletouchofart

 

If this image hits home for some of you remember, Love is a skill. Like all skills, they can be learned.

 

And it does not matter what level of skill you are at now. With enough faith and desire, and also the power of the mind and the spirit; you definitely can become incredibly skilled at loving yourself no matter what.

 

The next section provides details to help get you started.

Love Masterfully Transforms Force of Love Seven Agreements

"Just because some people can do something with little or no training, it doesn't mean that others can't do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training."

Carol Dweck

Final Details On Love (and the 6th Agreement)

"It's the little details that are vital.

Little things make big things happen."

John Wooden

There's that quote again... here's why:

 

Combined Creates a Capital “L”

Again, Loving yourself is a skill, and being a Loving person is a skill too. Even more specific and more detailed than that:

 

Love is a combination of individual skills.

 

To understand this perspective, it first helps to be aware that Love has many different attributes. Each one of these attributes are often described as characteristics and qualities too. It can also help to think of each of these attributes, qualities, and characteristics as an individual skill.

 

For example, a Loving person is often described as caring, understanding, accepting, empathetic, sympathetic and compassionate. Loving people also can be described as being warm, tender, kind, gentle, sensitive, and affectionate too.

 

Caring for something and letting your entire heart flow onto something fully appreciating and valuing something is a skill. As you can imagine, there are many, MANY people that are blocked off from the skill of letting their “entire heart flow” and “wholeheartedly loving something”. The reasons why we block off Love and all of its related skills is a topic to save for another day (see the previous picture for a hint as to why this is).

 

The main point is that “wholeheartedly caring for something” and “wholeheartedly loving something” is a skill.

 

Looking at the attributes shared in a few paragraphs above, clearly:

  • Understanding yourself and others is a skill.
  • Accepting yourself and others is a skill.
  • Being empathetic for yourself and others is a skill
  • Being compassionate for yourself and others is a skill.
  • And being warm, tender, kind, gentle, sensitive, and affectionate to yourself and others are all individual skills too.

 

Each of the  “Love Skills” are powerful on their own. However, when they’re all combined in a certain way, they begin to form an even more powerful force than the sum of their individual parts. That “combination of skills” creates the powerful force known as "Love", or "the force of Love" (hence the capital “L”- this refers to when the individual Love Skills are combined to create the force of Love).

 

The more Love Skills you can master and combine, the more powerful the force of Love will be in your life.

 

It’s one thing to have mastered the skills of understanding and compassion, and nothing else.

It’s another thing to have mastered the skills of understanding, compassion, and warmth; and nothing else.

It’s a whole other thing to have mastered being caring, understanding, accepting, empathetic, sympathetic, compassionate, warm, tender, kind, gentle, sensitive, AND affectionate as you possibly can be too.

 

There are more skills (and attributes, characteristics, and qualities) to Love than this, but we can agree that these are a great start, right?

Hopefully we also can agree that:

 

The more Love Skills you can master and combine, the more powerful the force of Love will be in your life.

 

Love Masterfully Transforms Force of Love Seven Agreements

At the end of the day

At the end of the day, it really is as simple as this:

During the good times, down times, and especially the during heavy and dark times in life- we ALL could use more of these “attributes of Love” and these “Skills of Love” in our lives.

 

It also is as simple as this too:

The more you know about Love and the more you master all of the skills that allow you to be as Loving of a person as you possibly can be; the more that Love will impact your life.

 

The “Master Skill of Life” (and arguably the most important challenge in life as a human being) is being as Loving of a person as you possibly can be NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS IN YOUR LIFE.

 

Only so much…

As you can imagine, only so much can be discussed in one article about all of the healing, transformative, inspiring, and life-changing powers of Love; and also “how to best Love yourself” and "the best ways to become a Truly Loving person" too.

 

Like any journey of mastery, the journey to master the “Skill of Love” (and all of its related skills) is a lifelong journey that takes a lot of persistence, dedication, studying, analysis, practice, training, and application amongst many other things.

 

Like all skills, it also takes desire and faith, and utilization of your mind and your spirit in order to master the Skill of Love too.

 

That’s Plenty:

That’s plenty for now. The main point is this:

Love is a powerful force.

 

Can you imagine taking on any of Life’s challenges without the force of Love by your side?

 

And also remember:

Who is anyone to say what can’t be accomplished when we have the powers of desire, faith, the human mind, the human spirit, and (most important of all) the force of Love on our side!?

And that is the Sixth Agreement in the Seven Agreements that all mental health professionals and all human beings should agree on:

The Sixth Agreement: Love Is One Of The Most Powerful Forces in Existence

We all can agree that Love is by far and away one of the most powerful tools, resources, and gifts that we have as human beings.

The Seventh Agreement

Seven Agreements

 

Maybe one day the entire mental health industry and the entire human race as a whole will automatically know that Love is the core of any truly effective treatment plan, and that loving yourself is absolutely essential to focus on first and foremost during any personal challenge.

 

Given the vast variety of the recommendations and the countless treatment ideologies that are presently promoted in society today; at this point in existence of humanity, it appears as if we are not quite at the point where everyone automatically makes Love the core of the solution to any personal challenge.

 

We also do not appear to relentlessly use Love as the “primary tool” and the “primary objective” of our treatment strategies and philosophies either.

 

Despite the current dynamics in existence, this still remains true.

"Master the Skills of Love, and Love will masterfully transform everything in your life."

The Gute Life

Maybe you’ll find a relentless focus on Love in the traditional and conventional areas of mental health.

Or, maybe you’ll find it in the holistic and integrative areas.

Or, maybe you’ll find it in the alternative and complimentary areas.

Or maybe you'll find a relentless focus on love in some place else.

 

If you are considering getting professional help with your personal challenges or are presently seeing someone and would like to get a second opinion; it would be an honor to work together and see what you can create for yourself when the core belief and core values of your treatment strategy are fundamentally built upon a foundation of Love.

 

Feel free to set that little commercial of mine aside. Regardless of your desire and aspirations at this point, in addition to getting to the Seventh (and Most Important) Agreement, please remember this:

 

Relentless Love

It IS This Simple

It really is as simple as this:

Rely on Force of Love

If you’re struggling to do this- let’s talk! I’ve been there before and know how to get out of this trap.

 

If you want to keep going at it on your own- freaking awesome! Hopefully this post helped you out on your DIY journey.

 

Again, regardless as to what your desires are at this point, let’s (finally) get to the seventh agreement. It arguably is the most important agreement that any human being can ever make.

 The Most Important Agreement of All

 

High or low. Happy or sad. Elated or depressed. Dark or light.

 

No matter where you are in your life, agree today to do everything you possibly can to wholeheartedly and relentlessly put your faith in Love, and to rely upon Love first and foremost in everything you do in your life.

 

There may be other things you rely on too (IE: desire, faith, persistence, honesty, objectivity, your mind, your spirit, etc.); but ALWAYS keep your faith in Love and ALWAYS start with Love too.

"Well begun is half done."

Aristotle

Yes- ALWAYS start with Love.

 

When you put your body, mind, heart, and soul into this agreement with yourself; Love will take care of the rest.

 

Ultimately that is the seventh and Final Agreement that ALL mental health professionals and arguably ALL human beings should agree upon too:

The Seventh Agreement: Relying on Love Works

When you wholeheartedly and relentlessly put your body, mind, heart, and soul into your faith in Love, Love will take care of the rest.

Feel free to get ahead of entire industries and society as a whole by making this agreement with yourself and for yourself today.

Seven Agreements Cards

 

Here is a link to the full article on all Seven Agreements. The first five really build a foundation for the last two. They also go a long way towards building a foundation in your mind so that you can maximize the impact that the force of Love can have in your life : )

HELP SUPPORT THE LOVE

If you enjoyed this article, The Gute Life would really appreciate your help. The Best way to help support the Love that we are sharing with the world is to like The Gute Life's facebook page.  Especially for a growing organization, every like and every share goes a long way. Thank you in advance for your support and your Love.

HELP SUPPORT THE LOVE

If you enjoyed this article, The Gute Life would really appreciate your help. The Best way to help support the Love that we are sharing with the world is to like The Gute Life's facebook page.  Especially for a growing organization, every like and every share goes a long way. Thank you in advance for your support and your Love.

The Gute Life
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John Gutekunst is an educator, coach, writer, and speaker. He also is a CFA Charterholder, a certified yoga instructor, a depression expert, an entrepreneur, and a "retired" corporate banker too. He is dedicated to guiding others enjoy their lives as much as humanly possible, guiding others through the process of completely eliminating their most difficult personal challenges from their life, AND to assisting others with achieving their most passionate goals and dreams. He also helps others find a way to Love themselves No Matter What Happens in their life. To speak with him directly, please email him at john@thegutelife.com.
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Gute (Goo-tee)

John Gutekunst is an educator, coach, writer, and speaker. He also is a CFA Charterholder, a certified yoga instructor, a depression expert, an entrepreneur, and a "retired" corporate banker too. He is dedicated to guiding others enjoy their lives as much as humanly possible, guiding others through the process of completely eliminating their most difficult personal challenges from their life, AND to assisting others with achieving their most passionate goals and dreams. He also helps others find a way to Love themselves No Matter What Happens in their life. To speak with him directly, please email him at john@thegutelife.com.
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